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Amy Monsky
Feb 17 2015
SHL Announcement - We've Lost Richard Cote

The following e-mail announcement was sent by Amy Monsky to the SHL News and Updates mailing list:

It is with great regret and a heavy heart that I share the

news that our own Richard "Uncle Dick" Cote died last week.  While many

may know him from his earlier days at the UU Church, Dick first came to

us at SHL when he was our November speaker in 2012.  He spoke about the

Death with Dignity movement and his book, In Search of Gentle Death.  Dick was charmed by the warmth and

reception that he received that night and became a member soon after.  Everyone who met him knew Dick loved to take pictures and document everything.  That first meeting was no exception.  He posted pictures on his Facebook page and this is what he had to say about our meeting:

"It's one thing if the audience is respectful, but the Humanists had

fabulous, articulate questions for me which kept us going for nearly

another half hour. Their

warm and inquisitive responses made the month it took to write the

speech (with the invaluable editing of my Senior Editor, Diane

Anderson, of course) a delight. Then they put the frosting on the cake

for me by inviting me do dinner after the program. It was a

heartwarming experience to see that the five years' research I put into

the book is opening eyes and attracting keen minds like theirs. Thanks

to all my new Lowcountry Humanist friends for a delightful and

thought-provoking evening! "

Since that time, Dick has been involved in many of our activities

including feeding the homeless at the potluck in December, helping

renovate the patio area at the Pametto House, representing us at the

Flowertown Festival, attending our monthly meetings, and many more. 

Dick donated blood on a regular basis at the Red Cross in Mount Pleasant

and always wore SHL stickers to show that we humanists were good

people, too.  Dick's personality was larger than life and his exuberance

was endearing.  Dick embraced life, lived on his on terms, and never

apologized for any of it.  Those who knew him were impressed with the

way he was reinventing himself to pursue his passions this last year of

his life at 69 years old.  Nobody who met Dick will forget him, and the world is a better place for having had him in it.  I know I am a better person for having known him.  I hope you remember him as fondly as I do.


Dick's wishes, there was no official service.  His wife Nancy is

planning a gathering to celebrate his life and I will share details when

that becomes available.

Dick was an extremely accomplished man and you can read about his many achievements here and here.  If you would like to send a card to his wife, please email me at for the address.

Grieving beyond belief,

Amy Monsky

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